It can be easy to fall into a rut with your sex life, whether you currently have a partner or not. You end up using the same positions, taking around the same amount of time … and generally feeling comfortable, but perhaps not quite so passionate. If you recognise this pattern, and you haven’t yet tried using sex toys with your partner, now is the time to start experimenting! They say that couples who play together, stay together - this is true whether your play is public or private.  Today we discuss how vibrators can give your sex life in general a buzz, and the possibilities of partnered sex with a vibrator. 

Using a vibrator - the possibilities

Even women who've had a vibrator in their underwear drawer for quite a few years now sometimes don’t realize their full potential. They have the power to:

• Increase your general sex drive, by accustoming your body to the arousal and orgasm process. The more you practice having orgasms, the better they get - and this goes for when you are only playing with your partner.  
• Open your mind to different pleasurable situations, which can be explored with a partner later on if you want. 

And while vibrators are primarily designed for clitoral stimulation, there are plenty of other fun places for them to make their way to! Use them on your G-spot for a very different feeling to you what you may be used to in your orgasm. You can also use them on your nipples as a prelude to the main event. 

Good vibrations - Using a vibrator with your boyfriend

The relationship issues surrounding bringing a vibrator into the bedroom are the subject of a whole other article ... we're just going to talk about the fun stuff here. If you are wondering about the logistics of how it will actually work, having sex with a vibrator present, here are some ideas!

• Have sex doggy-style or spooning, and use the vibrator on your clitoris while having sex
• Have your boyfriend use the vibrator inside you while he is licking you
• Use the vibrator on yourself to give him a show, before he even touches you
• If he comes before you, have him use the vibrator to make you come while your blood's still pumping
• Use the vibrator anally, or use it inside you while you have anal sex with your boyfriend - so that you can experience double penetration. As a side note, you can buy vibrators specially designed for anal sex - these are recommended over the vaginal-designed models. 

Good vibrations - Using a vibrator ON your boyfriend

This is one of the last great barriers in a modern sexual relationship. So many men are still afraid that liking anal (or prostate) stimulation makes them gay, that they are reluctant to try it. The sensitivity of anal tissue can compound the issues. Here are some quick tips for opening up a whole new sexual frontier, by having your boyfriend/husband have sex with a vibrator:

• Go very slow the first time (and every time), and use a good store-bought lube. 
• Use the vibrator on a low or pulse setting to start with
• Think about the fun it might be to buy a strap-on vibrator ... then the thruster can be come the 'thrusted'!